Is Spousal Abuse by Women a Reality? Is this Situation Ignored by our Legal System?
Here are representative letters that have been sent to me over the last few months indicating the level of abuse, and indicating the non-reaction of those who should support male abused victims.
Private individuals should not have to develop campaigns and seek corroborative evidence when there are professionals that should protect men from spousal abuse.
The website below covers Northern Ireland but can be extended across the rest of the UK.
As a result of reading this article, plus many other articles, and investigating some of the statistics involved, it is clear that there needs to be protection for men as well as women.
I have advised 2 Local MPs that I am willing to head up an investigation into the issue of suicides to try to establish a co-relation between suicides in men as a result of divorce type issues and the stresses that are placed upon men and ignored by our legal system. The level of suicide amongst men is far too high at over 4700 per annum, and I feel deeply about the impact that divorce, child separation and Parental Alienation has on this high figure.
I have offered my services for two days a week for 6 months, free of any costs for me. If I found that there was too much information flying through, then I may need an assistant, that would be paid for by the NHS and the Ministry of Justice. Unfortunately, this offer, and the same one made to our Prime Minister, have yet to be responded to.
Here are some frightening statistics
You have to ask yourself, are blameless men and innocent children being given a fair and equal representation and protection in society and our legal system?
And ask yourself the question, why are only women listened to?
50% of all Court Orders for contact are broken and not enforced. [The Times, 2003]
200 children lose contact with their fathers every day in secret family courts. [Fathers4Justice]
1 in 3 children live without their father. [Office for National Statistics]
Many women will tell deliberate lies and even self-harm to have control of the children to spite a father, because they are aggrieved with their former partners. It also makes good financial sense for them to plead abuse even if none existed. But a child will suffer because some women are so mentally twisted and self serving that they are not concerned with the child's best interests.
Does the State Care?
No! Because if it did, the statistics would not be as they are.
Witness statements should be given due credence and the outcome of Child Court Decisions should be policed in a fair, intelligent and equal way. There are too many miscarriages of justice because the woman's word is taken at face value, backed up by 'Experts' who do not carry out detailed and substantiated reports. Yet as Independent ‘Experts’ they make large amounts of money, so they have an interest in maintaining the Status Quo.
Some 'Experts' even have their own biases, and innocent children are left with female mental abusers that no one bothers to police. Mental and controlling behaviour abuse against children is as prevalent and as dangerous as physical abuse, but because you cannot see it, it gets ignored until a child becomes a statistic in the future.
One child's ruined life is one too many, and all you will get from Social Services are inadequate investigations, or ignored by biased individuals with the usual excuses that 'Lessons have been learnt', or we are under-resourced. If you ran a business with those excuses you would be closed down.
I cannot understand why so many in the Justice system can sleep when children are condemned to a life controlled by manipulative women, who abuse that very legal system for their own gain.
The needs of children are being abused where Parental Alienation Syndrome is practiced by many ex wives and partners because the courts have made them as the resident parent.
You only have to look at all the recent high profile cases where the 'Loving Mother' has been wrongly chosen as the Resident Parent, again backed up by the 'Experts' who frequently quote out- dated Attachment Theories such as Bowlby, when Schaffer and Rutter offer that fathers can equally be a ‘resident parent’, and that children, both boys and girls, need fathers to help their development.
This leads me to other statistics, these are in the USA, but the UK follows closely the lifestyles of that country. [avoiceformen.com]
90% of homeless children are from fatherless homes.
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes.
80% of suicides are from men.
85% of all children that exhibit behavioural disorders come from fatherless homes.
85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes.
90% of the homeless are men.
90% of divorce applications are from women.
Primary care is only given to 10% of men in Court Rulings.
If women really cared then the above statistics would be lower.
Remember that 80% of suicides are men and 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes, and where are the 'Experts' and the Legal system when these facts are advised to them?
Men, as resident parents, can equally, with their extended families and friends, look after children, and would only have to re-adjust to this new requirement, but it is not beyond the realms of ability and possibility.
It is acknowledged that not every man can enjoy this flexibility, as society is still very 'woman biased' and men are still deemed the 'breadwinner' and 'the little woman' only has the skills to look after children... as dictated by adherents to the Bowlby theory of parental attachment. This attachment theory was used a lot to encourage women to stay at home after the second world war to allow jobs to be taken up by men returning from forces service.
But what a very arrogant and sexist viewpoint used in the modern age. Bowlby has been repeatedly dismissed by other more up to date theorists, but he is still taught and relied upon by social workers.
Again, I repeat, I am not anti-woman, only anti-injustice, and I do care about ALL people in society.
I also know that not all men are perfect, but we should all continue to strive to be fair and equal in our dealings and relationships with others for the sake of children and society into the future.
Where are the Refuge Centres for men and children, and how many places are there compared for women?
Why can a man not take himself to a Centre with his children when they are subjected to abuse?
Is it because there is a lack of public support, knowledge or apathy for the well being of fathers and their relationship with their children?
Here's an interesting video showing reactions to abuse in public.
Another dreadful example, by a subscriber to Facebook ‘Suffragents’, of the imbalance in how men are perceived and abused both by the wife and the authorities. That should be deemed an offence by the authorities against the Equalities Act 2010.
Anonymous: "I was in a physically and mentally abusive marriage. My ex wife slept with at least 6 members of my battalion that I know of, 'our' child turned out not to be mine. I was kicked, punched, burnt with cigarettes, made to feel f***ing worthless. I am ashamed to say I retaliated once, when she had me backed into a corner and was trying to hack me with a meat cleaver. I was the one arrested, it was ME who was locked in a custody suite and interviewed like a criminal. Their attitude changed instantly when I showed them the bruises both fresh and old on my body where she'd kicked me with steel toe capped boots. And yet there are some who think violence by women on men is because the man is soft ... F***ing b*llocks. I was brought up to respect women and never to lift a finger to them."